Friday 5 July 2013

Changes in our life

Every changes brings changes in our mind, Behaviour and our way of thinking

Our parents and our  guardian says that when we were small ( kids ) we where good by nature and would obey our parents and do things as our parents would tell us .we where one of our parents favourite at that time as we were innocent and even as a child we cared for our parents as we felt protected  in their arms and can’t think of harming them even , but still different child had different nature , as we grow up different hormonal changes takes place inside our body and it ultimately affect our mind our way of thinking and our response to each and every situation .
When we grow up and look up to the changing society  we get fascinated by the modern trends and the materialistic things of others and we desire to get those things that others have and we don’t have and we force our parents to buy those things for us which our neighbour or friends have and to match the society we want such things from our parents which is not possible for them to give us and our parents understands better than us what is good and what foe us , but as we grow up our longing for things become so important for us that we think that whatever we are thinking about us is right for us and what elders are thinking about us is wrong and thus we tend to follow a wrong path , and this is the time when we feel that our parents our not giving space in our life and we start disobeying them and once we do that our parents become strict with us and start limiting every facility in our life and we think that our parents are becoming our enemy and we think that those people who agree to what we say is our best friend , is the one who loves us .
When we start going to the school   we don’t realize that we have step up in a different world , which we slowly change our life and bring different changes in our way of thinking , we will gain experience in life from better to worst and learn lots of lesson and slowly realize that the ones who had given us birth and kept us protected in their arm where the true person in our life and the rest are fake person . when we enter school there are some things which drives us more close to new person in life , our friends and draws us apart from our parents , the changes that takes place in our life till we reach the puberty age are , we start living in a community where we get exposure to meet both opposite sex , when we do friendship we don’t realize the emotions that will capture our heart and mind , initially it continues to me a normal innocent friendship but slowly when we get the exposure of h entertainment world where every reality has been edited into a dream world , a world which helps us to imagine , it can be any kind of movies starting from love story , friendship e.t.c and thus we start imaging that our real life is going to be the same as that of the life of theatre .And slowly we get attracted to the opposite sex and slowly we get into some common habits like chatting for longer time , roaming around with friends , sharing our feelings , these common habits are we consider to be very common but these same things are opposed by our parents and they give negative reply to whatever we do and ultimately we  feel scared to share any feelings with our parents and make those topics  secret of our life and only share with friends and not with parents and thus we long for enjoying our life , thus as we gradually grow up and become adult we become matured and even our instinct to know about other things like society and about the function of human body increases  know as schopophilia where a man desires to know the body functions of men and women , thus gradually our imagination takes a certain height where we lack the emotional support and mental peace . As we feel more attracted towards the opposite sex ,we lack the emotional intelligence  and even lack concentration  and  thus when a child finds that their parents are not liberal and  they consider about feeling our emotions and our maturity as perverted things , then a distance is grown up between a child and their parents and then they stop sharing their personal life problems with them . Now this small thought a small change in latter’s behaviour brings changes in our life, whereby some people that become independent and some becomes more matured and practical, and some people they possess a very good mind of judging people.
A small change in society bring changes in people , whereby even now  parents prefer boy more than girl and where there are more than one sibling in society  and as we know that god has made every individual different from others , so the nature and desire and dream of every individual are different though they Have born in same family but they have different life , so if parents they think that all their children’s are going to have same career like rest of them then it will create a felling of enmity between siblings and they will find their siblings as their competitors , especially in the family where there is a boy parents starts comparing a boy and a girl child and shows that their son is superior than their daughter and slowly a small change in society or a small change in family situation , change in parents behaviour towards their child brings a huge change in their child’s nature , it is usually seen that a child whom their family used to consider inferior they not only become the successful person in life but also the best person and this generally happen as the child finds themselves isolated from family members and builds their self confidence to prove themselves that they are best .
When we start facing this wicked world then we realize that how each and every individual can will change you and make a impact in your mind and transform you to be a new person. When we look up to our society and desire to get some true friends like that shown in movies and desire for a happy and settled life getting what we want like our dream house , luxurious life , choice of our girlfriend and boyfriend but in reality this are not possible as ultimately at the end of the day we have to stand alone as we come face to face with the realty that people are very self-centered , selfish , to make their own life settled they spoil others family by doing betrayal and breaking the trust , backstabbing .Thus when this happens we bring out our aggressive behaviour and this leads to the feeling of  taking revenge and then we realize our true potential and start developing ourselves for doing better in  life and thus this changes brings changes in our mind , changes our way of thinking and ultimately changes our life .
Life is not what we imagine , life is what we face in reality  and dream to change that reality into positive way by applying it in practical life  and in our day to day working .Life is what we create by knowing the hard reality , the rough part of life . It is true that to do something big in life you have to face the worst reality in life which will ultimately motivate you to create something positive out of negative.
Sometimes thinking about your past is not wrong , it reminds you of what wrong you had done what are the  responsibilities you have left behind and that you should complete your responsibilities , it reminds you of your some happy memory which makes you smile when you are lonely and no one is there by your support ,it  makes you realize your mistake and makes you aware about not repeating it again .Our every day to day action brings changes in our lie and something we should remember is not to regret what we have done , not to regret even if we have done something wrong because our every action  , I repeat our every action every minute , every second of time is decided by god and the ladder of success comes with the chain of our day to day action starting from our childbirth .Last but not the least don’t imagine a person nature , a person action to be the same as what you imagine , as this is not possible in reality as we cannot predict someone mind so it is better not to think that everyone in this world will be good to you.

Monday 1 July 2013


It is a very common tendency seen in maximum people, the habit of comparing themselves with others and thinking that they are inferior and that it would be better if they looked similar to their friend, relatives or someone else with whom they are fascinated. Looking up to the Bollywood and the  Hollywood celebrity like Aishwarya Rai Bachchan , Sahrukh Khan , Shakhira , Angelina Joulie  the young women and men start comparing their life with others and desire to be  like them in their appearance , life style , and they think that if they follow their path of success  even they will be successful , but this kind of thought doesn't  applies to everyone , if you really want to e successful you have to be unique person  have a  different thought to achieve success , outwardly everyone life looks beautiful but in their real life even we don’t know that what kind of worst circumstances they go through and  now as compared to them we forget that we are living a happy life as compared to others . If we look up to the top businessman like Mittal , Ambani , rattan Tata , bill gates , marks Zuberg  and think that if we do the same thing what they have done and become successful then that’s wrong as their path of success  is only right for them and wrong for us  as it was their unique idea which has made them successful , every individual top business man has a idea different from others and that’s the reason why they are successful in different ways , and  different fields . The same thing is with us if we want to be a successful person in business or in media or in any other field, we should posses a idea different from others and have confidence to implement them  and stop demoralizing ourselves by comparing ourselves to others and feeling that we are inferior to others this nature gives  a negative wives in our whole career .
It often happens that we get pissed off and irritated by our life because of no reason , the only problem is we build our own problem and brood to others that we have such a disappointing life as compared to others , we curse god that he has given us such a life  where actually we are responsible for our faults , in such a wicked society we meet with loads of people and each and every person is selfish every person has a feeling of jealousy and  most of them breaks others trust and thus we spend most of our time in thinking about what others are doing , feeling jealous of  others  and thinking how should I spoil their work to make my way , thinking about taking revenge and so on and so forth and ultimately  the whole of out thinking and harming others leads to our own destruction . If we really want that we should b the tor and want to know what others are doing then it’s better to pay complete attention to our work think about ourselves , follow the right path in life and gain fame  then we will understand that i am standing at the top and my enemies , they are still struggling .
If the question is of how to get rid of the unwanted thoughts then the best way is to read lots  of story books ,  speak to yourself loud let the wall hear what you are  saying , but never speak within your mind as that is to suffocating , the next thing is get more involved in different works , think about good memories of your past and whenever IT HAPPENS THAT YOU ARE THINKING THAT YOU ARE INFERIOR TO OTHERS THEN  THE BEST THIN TO DO IS TO  LOOK YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR AND SAY THAT i AM BEAUTIFUL AND I AM THE BEST AND A WINNER , THIS KIND OF THINKING WILL GIVE P[POSITIVE ENERGY IN YOU LIFE AND YOU WILL FELL FREE TO MOVE FORWARD IN YOUR LIFE AND THEN  YOU WILL STOP COMPARING , COPYSING YOURSELF AS OTHER. When god has given every individual human with  intelligence then why should we try to copy ourselves like that of our friend, why can’t we remain what we are, be true to ourselves, be natural and not a carbon copy of other. If we try to remain what we are then we will feel confident about ourselves that I have my own unique nature different from others and that we are the best,  and then we will get to learn loads of things the most important is that we will follow our instinct and not others words and thus we won t get misguided in our lives .